Keep your mouth shut and do what you have/want to do

This is what I want to say to someone you probably know who he is and also to myself.
Silence is good-that's what I've heard from my elders since my childhood. As a kid from Asian culture I was not allowed to express my natural feelings, my true mind easily even if I was depressed or feeling unfair. That was the rule. That was the virtue. Of course, I didn't follow their advise: I was kinda a noisy kid until my late teens and my social image was not so good on the frames of my society IMO. And it was totally different with the real myself! I was known as an arrogant and careless girl but I was not. Maybe I was a bit arrogant but I was way too careful, annoyed by everything. People thought that I loved to communicate with others but it was not true. Making a new relationship was always so hard for me and keeping the relation? Oh, that was worse.
After having a couple of difficult years I realized that I should shut up at least in front of unfamiliar ones. It's not easy of course and I still make some mistakes like speaking too loud or butting in unnecessary situations, making things worse.
In the case of him I think there should be more care and silence. He's a kind of public figure-a world class athlete- and there are lots of relationships cannot be controlled by solely himself, especially the media. While showing good results it is OK but if he has a poor performance then the attacks would be so harsh. When dealing with media it is better to keep silent if you are not able to make a proper answer and it is extremely difficult-actually almost impossible-to make a flawless statement since they always eager to fine some wrongness which will increase the number of their subscriber, viewer, click, whatever. Basically they do not consider the reputations or feelings of the interviewee. That's the rule in media society, IMO. And their influences are phenomenal ; scars from media attacks cannot be cured by any means. The only way of being free from previous scratches is covering them with brand-new glories and it is really a labored work for sure.
So sometimes people need to shut their mouth and do what they want to do even though it would be considered a bit dull or timid. To prevent severe damage to one's social image and one's mind itself. Keep silent until making overwhelming results-that's what I always try to do but it's nearly impossible since I do not have enough abilities to make surprising ones. But he can do that for sure and that's why I want to say the title of this post to him. Personally I do not care what he says since I'm a fan of his performance, not his words or his behaviors. But it makes me so sad that he is considered to be a jerk. He surely deserves more respects as a talented athlete and it would be easier to get if he pays some attention to his words toward media.

Present, pleasant

I'm a kind of person who do not give gifts away often. I'm always short of money because I get small income as a grad. and it is usually not enough to fulfill my needs since I always find for something new and the search requires much money. I prefer using my money for myself even though it should seem to be a bit selfish.

So when I decide to give a present to someone I become really concerned. It's not a trivial event for me and I want to make it perfect. More specifically, I hope my gift would be a really needed and useful one for my recipient and try my best in deciding an item. The most delightful moment for me as a doner is not when I hear thanks from my pal for the gift, but when I witness he or she uses the thing in his/her everyday life. It makes me relived and growing my intention of giving another gift despite of lack of money and stressful selection procedures I should overcome.

I gave some gifts to my favorite athelete and he gave me some pleasant messages without notice. He's a pleasant guy in his late teens; after a couple of mis-selections (like ties and clothes) I came back to my rule-give someone what he needs. Luckiliy I have lots of friends addicted in technologies and machines and they surely share some similarities with my fav. (Boys!) So I tried IPod, which I was sure of being first-rated gift for my friends, and it worked- he appreciated it (of course) and actually used it! It made me happy; I felt that finally I did something helpful for him. :P That was the first message I've got.

Fully satisfied, I had no intention of giving another gift until last autumn. Then lots of negative things had happen to him and he was surely in a hard situation with lots of pressure. I deadly hoped him just enjoy the big event even though it would be so hard, nearly impossible. I wanted to send him a message-"enjoy every second of the game and your life. Everything will become a lifelong memory and wish you have lots of good ones". There was an item which I thought suited perfectly for that. A camera.

A camera has another special meaning for me in following him as a fan. I started taking photos because I wanted to get some good photos of him by myself. Now he's not the main reason of me taking sports photography;I concentrate more on the sports itself. But he, his sports and the camera things entirely changed my life and I owe them a lot since they have given me a power of enduring extremely dull life of a grad. His(and other athletes') photos provided me such nice memories and I wanted to give him the same feelings.

Even though I decided to give a digital camera to him and bought it I was not sure of giving him it until the last minutes. There are lots of reasons but the main reason was that I also needed a digital camera and the one I bought was actually good and fitted perfect for my needs. I was also so worried especially whether he already had his own. But anyway I gave him the present hoping he successfully captures my words in it. I have no idea of his response but he seems to use that anyway. That's the second message and probably the last one, which made me so excited and skipping all over the office. Now what I hope is his having great moments at the event and keeping the memories with my present(probably). If he is willing to share some photos with his fans like me it would be greater. Especially some photos from Hockey final!(and curling final, as a beginner curling fan:D)

About Jay

Jay
Location : Southern city of South Korea
Occupation : Doctoral course graduate student in Environmental process engineering discipline
Addicted in : Sports photography (especially figure skating), Black tea
Listening : Musicals, Classical music - Bach, Bartok, Brahms, Viola, Chamber music
Watching : Figure skating, Baseball, Curling, Dance
Interested in : Sustainability, Environmental economics, Wastewater reuse, Social/economic aspects of industrial environmental effects
Characteristics : Shyness, Loneliness, Enjoying new experiences(without meeting too many people), Quick on the uptakes in general, Poor memories